Having a baby is one of the most beautiful and joyous times in a mother’s life. The truth is though, that it can also be one of the most stressful times. New moms often find themselves experiencing a wide variety of emotions and coupled with exhaustion, they can be overwhelming.
The problem is, new moms also have a knack for giving the impression that they do not want or need any help. If you know someone who has just had a baby, there are a few great ways to help a new mom, even if you do not think she needs it.
Bring Over Food
One of the best ways to help a new mom is to bring over meals that can be frozen. Every time you visit, bring over something for her to put in her freezer to warm up in the microwave or oven later. This will help her to keep her freezer stocked and minimize her stress and frustration over having to create meals.
Help with Chores
If you ask a new mom how you can help, the most common response will be to imply that they may not need it. Rather than asking how you can help, just do it. Whether you choose to do the dishes while she changes a diaper or you sweep the floor while she put her feet up, take the initiative to lend a hand whenever possible.
Don’t Expect to Be Entertained
When someone has a new baby, people are excited to head over to meet the new little bundle. The truth is though— this is not a great choice. While a new baby certainly is exciting, new moms should not have to entertain. The best people for a new mom to have around are the loved ones that are empathetic and calm. Visiting may put too much stress on her, making her feel as though she needs to cook, get dressed up, or clean the house. The best thing you can do for a new mom is to visit without expecting to be entertained or hang back until she invites you.
Get Her out of The House
Sometimes just getting out of the house for a second is great for new moms. Suggest going for a little walk with the baby. While fitness may be the last thing on mom’s mind, the fresh air and exercise can help her to feel refreshed.
Offer to Babysit
One of the most difficult parts of being a new mom is most certainly the lack of sleep. While a little sleep deprivation is normal, it is also extremely challenging and can contribute to anxiety and depression. Off to watch the baby for a few hours so mom can take a quick shower and nap. The more often you volunteer to do this, the more comfortable she will become with accepting that help.
New moms may be craving adult conversation, especially after being with a baby all day and night long. Sometimes, all a new mom truly needs is another adult to listen to her. It is always better to listen, read her cues and only give advice when asked for it. Just be there to lend an ear, and you will see her start to relax.
The best ways to help a new mom are really quite simple. Just remember to bring her food, help with chores, not expect to be entertained, help her get out of the house, and offer to babysit. In fact, if you just listen to her and provide her with a trustworthy ear, you are also doing something more helpful than you would think.